I have been writing about prayer for a long time. My own spiritual journey began over two decades ago with a life-changing answered prayer. I love to pray! And I love helping other people with prayer, which I refer to as my Prayer Buddy work, using the spiritual law of “two or more” to increase the potency of prayer.
For reasons I don’t quite understand, most people who contact me about prayer are looking for help with their love life due to a break-up or divorce. It may be because I wrote an e-book about soul-mates, but rarely do I get asked about manifesting those kinds of relationships. The most common request I receive is about reconciling with an ex.
I receive these requests so often I decided to address the topic directly.
So, here’s my advice to anyone seeking to apply spiritual principles to heal a relationship that has ended:
1) Get a copy of Florence Scovel Shinn’s book The Game of Life and How to Play It
This book came into my life after a painful end to a painful relationship. I recommend it to everyone who contacts me with a prayer request to reconcile with an ex. Not only is the book a metaphysical masterpiece, but it also includes plenty examples of people who applied the various teachings to their own lives and what happened as a result.
The book contains an example of how to reconcile with an ex, and there’s also an example of letting go of the person you think you want and opening up to the person who is the “divine selection.” Asking for the man who was mine by divine right is how I manifested my husband. He is my divine selection, without a doubt, and I am much happier with him than I was in any previous relationship.
Here’s what’s interesting though: If you are brave enough to ask for the partner who is yours by divine right, it just might be the ex you’re trying to get back with. Or, as it was in my case, it might be someone new. Either way, start by reading the book.
2) Bless and Curse Not
There’s is no way to heal a relationship with a person you constantly think negatively of. Do you replay past arguments in your mind? Do you hold onto old resentments? Do you withhold forgiveness? Do you think of all the hurtful things you’d say to your ex if you met again? If so, it’s time to stop. Bless and curse not. I mean that literally. Bless your ex. I personally prayed the Hawaiian “Death” Prayer for my (handful) of ex-partners. It is a powerful prayer of blessing and releasing.
Don’t freak about about the releasing part of this prayer. Not long after blessing and releasing one of my ex-partners, he contacted me asking for reconciliation. By that time, however, I had discovered he was not the guy who was mine by divine right and soon after started dating John. John and I have been married for almost 11 years now!
If you are not quite ready for the releasing part of the Hawaiian “Death” Prayer, then I recommend a simple “God bless” prayer, i.e. God bless [insert name of your ex].
Bless your ex until you are no longer disturbed by their absence or past actions. The true mark of an answered prayer is a feeling of peace. If you don’t feel at peace, keep praying and blessing until you do.
3) Every relationship is an exercise in love
We cannot receive what we do not give. In order to receive love, we must give love. Send your ex love and best wishes and that’s what you’ll receive in return, one way or another. Be open to love, even if it shows up in the form of someone new.
Louise x
